I wonder if anyone has ever considered that weight may not just be about calories in and calories burned. Seriously what if weight is not that at all.
Here is this thing that has bothered me for a really long time when it comes to weight. Why do men have higher weight standards than women? They say that it is because men have more muscle. But I know a lot of women who work harder than men and I know a lot of men who are serious couch potatoes. So why do we still have this standard that it is okay for men to weigh more than a woman who is the same height?
What is hot?
Why do we not think that women who can bear a child in a few short hours of easy labor (big hips) and breast feed a baby with milk to spare (naturally large but soft breasts and some body fat) are not the epitome of female beauty? Why do men think a female body that is barely out of adolescence and therefore lacking this child bearing body as being more attractive than a woman whose body is geared towards child rearing?
Why do men find unintelligent women with “slamming bodies” attractive? Is the physical appearance truly better than the ability to out think others?
Why do elephants have so much body fat, if it is all about calories in and energy used shouldn’t elephants be as thin as a cheetah? What about walrus? Surely they use alot of energy why do their bodies look so fat? Shouldn’t they be thinner?
Does anyone realize that many naturally thin women exist on diet coke and yogurt? Really. When I weighed 110 pounds and was “hot” I drank two pots of coffee a day, smoked 12 cigarettes a day and ate one meal a day. I could walk 18 miles uphill and barely break a sweat. I know a lot of women like this. One day I asked a woman what her diet was to stay so thin, and what her exercise was. She informed me that she had an eating disorder so not to use her as a model of thin. She also was hospitalized for said eating disorder a year later.
What of naturally thin vegetarian woman who died a few years ago at a gym. She was a young 40ish and dropped dead of a heart attack while running her mandatory miles on the treadmill at the gym.
Once I did Weight Watchers for a year. I lost 20 pounds immediately, and as carefully as I followed the diet I could not lose another pound. It was brutal. It is not, for my body, about calories in and energy used.
I once did the South Beach Diet and lost an additional 10 pounds immediately. Exercise was not physically possible but I was now 30 pounds lighter than when I started. One day I was at the gym and I ate my cheese stick and pistachios and broccoli omelet for breakfast but nearly passed out from the drop in my blood sugar. I realized at that moment that carbs really do play a role in overall health.
I am in good shape. Have a normal heart rate, normal blood pressure, can walk for miles at a brisk pace, yes even uphill. Enjoy physical activity, eat right, and am very flexible. And yet – and yet I am over that scale for a woman in the doctors office. A little high on that scale for men and yes I do have a lot of fat on my upper thighs and my belly. But I am not sloppy or fat by any means. Also I wear a size 9 ring on my finger and bangles will not slip over my wrists and did not do so even when I was thin. I truly have big bones. It is not just a silly thing that people say on Saturday Night Live. Even when I weighed 110 pounds I had to wear a larger size pant because my hip bones stuck out beyond my body fat. And my skirt size was literally 4 sizes smaller than my pant size. I could fit the skirt over my hips and fasten it at my waist and it would fit fine.
I know I live in a state of denial. But the truth is I have my doubts about the weight loss industry. It is too big to battle. And we all know that no one wants to battle the food industry, because you can loose weight on a twinkie diet and be thin, but who wants to really?
In the end I think we will discover that weight has more to do with genetics and hormones than it does to do with calories in and energy used. In the meantime. In the mean time. Can we call men on their attitudes when they choose a hot woman over a smart one? A skinny woman over a strong one? An altered woman over a natural one? It is time to shift our culture. Don’t let them get away with it anymore. It’s time our boys started acting like men.