The Smell of Spring

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I wake feeling refreshed, which I suppose for most people is normal, but for me it is a great rarity, enough to make me notice, immediately.  My alarm goes off and I hit snooze, but only because I want to keep writing the dream I was having, it was a good one.  I can hear him coming down the hall towards my room, and he climbs on my bed and licks my face.  He is very talkative today, in a way that I can almost understand what he is saying to me.  Ok. Ok.  And I get up and he is a gentleman, waiting for me to enter each room and catch up to him before he goes on to the next room, I hobble, putting my slippers on as I go.  I swing open the back door, which is when it hits me, the fine odor of spring, finally perfuming the air.

Perfume is my theme for the day.  There is a moment when you can smell, something, you recognize it immediately, a woman’s perfume, the only thing missing is the noxious chemical once used to cover it.

I put on my scarf and I smell my own warm perfume.  I breathe it in.

Do you remember how I smell?

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Guest blog by my daughter, Morgan, titled “An Open Letter to the People Who are Invading my Home”

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An Open Letter to the People Who Are Invading my Home:

You may not know who I am – well, no. Let me rephrase that. You don’t. See, that’s the thing about houses. They form such an intimate part of our lives, and then someone else you’ve never met just charges right in, cooking food in the kitchen, sleeping the bedrooms, not knowing or caring about who came before. Hence the reason I am writing to you. Because I want, perhaps need, to tell you that I was there, and that it meant something to me.

I did my final walk through my house today. Alone. It seemed appropriate. I say my house, because even though it has become yours to call home, and I have a house of my own, a part of me will always be there. I’d like to say I’ve lost a lot in my twenty-one years, but we’re being honest here. I’ve always had food to eat, a roof over my head. Not many people I know have died; I’m no victim of some great tragedy. My family is actually, quite loving, if sometimes oppressively so. I don’t have a lot of friends, but the ones I do have are people I’ve held on to because they’re good and worthwhile people. Despite all that, I find that I feel quite apathetic about people in general. I don’t see much humanity in humanity, if you understand my meaning. I have a tendency to get attached to places and things, and the memories that they hold.

I find it – wrenching – how empty it is here. To you, I’m sure it says “possibility”. You can look at the bare rooms and see yourself there. Do you have a family to fill up all the empty space? But all I can see is where we held Thanksgiving dinner and Christmas and Easter with people we don’t know anymore, family who are not with us anymore. The kitchen is quite nice, don’t you think? I bet it was a big selling point. I can see it now as it was before. You wouldn’t know it was the same room, the same house, if you saw a picture of it fifteen years ago. The old green fridge, the linoleum floor that our puppy did us, and, trust me here, you, the favor of tearing up so that we could put down new tile. We finished the remodeling the day before Thanksgiving. We didn’t know it then, but it was our last Thanksgiving as a family.

We had to paint all the walls in drab colors for you. The house has no personality anymore. My mother’s paintings used to hang in every room. I wonder what you think about the downstairs bathroom, and how the ceiling is painted dark purple, with stars and galaxies. In fact, the whole room used to be like that. It was painful to paint it white, and we felt compelled to leave a little bit of its old glory. When we moved in, there was this horrible beige wallpaper, with brown flowers and polka dots. (How the realtor decided the galaxies were worse than this is beyond me, but they’re both gone now in any case.) My mother left a bottle of hand soap in the bathroom. English lavender. She only likes the smell because she says it reminds her of her grandmother.

And of course, there’s the next room. You may wonder why something sold to you as an “upstairs laundry room” has the distinct odor of Gesso and turpentine. Or maybe you don’t, because you don’t know what those things smell like. My mother’s studio. It was always kind of wondrous to me – I could never capture her skill with a paintbrush. Or with pen or marker or modeling clay, for that matter. I’ve always had this image of her – young, before I was born, when she still wore her hair long, with that artsy, disheveled look, smoking, creating beautiful images with paint and canvas. And I always felt this emptiness, because I could never dream of being that person (whether or not this image is close to or far from the truth is wholly irrelevant). Recently I had this revelation that maybe my grace is in words rather than pictures, but somewhere in my mind I’ve cultivated this theory that writing is something that anyone can do, so it doesn’t really count. In any case, I find that my reality is far from the romantic possibilities I imagine for an artist.

As I walk up the stairs, the sound of my footsteps echoes through the house. It’s such an empty sound that the word “empty” doesn’t capture it. It’s a cacophony of silence, vast, infinite, destitute, vacuous. Upstairs, I start with my mother’s room. It still smells like her – it’s not something I can describe, not a perfume or a candle. Just something warm and safe. She left the walls painted sage green, as an act of defiance. Even this color defines her, and it strikes me now that I’m not the only one leaving a piece of myself behind here. My grandmother made the curtains that are still here – they define her as well. A batik, ubiquitous in the many quilts that she makes and gives to family, friends, charities, people she knows of who are in need of a small comfort.

In the smallest bedroom, I’m ambivalent. We housed two people here who had no place else to go. Two people whom I love in that deep down kind of way that you love family you don’t see very often, not an active love, but an eternal fondness. But it was also my mother’s ex-husband’s office, where he would hole up for hours, and rage if you dared crack the door to retrieve an item or ask a question.

My final stop is my bedroom. It’s difficult to even look at. But I sit down, between the two windows that face the street, where my bed used to stand. Here is where I lost my virginity with the man who is now my husband. And here, I consider for a long time how many hours I spent in this room. With friends, alone, learning, growing, it’s all very cliché. There’s a mural on one wall. My mother painted it when I was going through a Zen phase, which, to some extent, has stuck with me. I hope you don’t paint over it. We already painted over the other three walls for you. They were this wonderful, bright, spring green that I chose when I was finally allowed to dispose of the cold ice blue that had been chosen for me. It – the green – was so warm and sunny. You can still see a little bit of it in the crack between the wall and frame of the closet.

The longer I sit, the more ghosts I count, and you are inheriting all of them. I’m happy to pass them off to you. Some may seem insignificant. Two cats died here. One, we couldn’t bear to euthanize until she was too weak to stand, a selfish cruelty I’ve since regretted. When she died, that was the first in a long series of more serious troubles. After that, little bits of our family broke off piece by piece. Where there were seven, four remain, and in four, maybe five years, it will be down to two. The other cat – this isn’t really relevant, but it breaks my heart, my mother and I couldn’t – or wouldn’t – take in. You see, in her old age, she had lost her fondness for doing her business where it belonged. So, when we left, she stayed in the empty house, all alone, deaf, going blind. I feel this terrible ache of guilt whenever I think of her now.

Then, of course, there’s the front steps. This is where my mother’s husband sat and told her that he was leaving her. No trying, no second chances, it was over. And here is the part of my story where I started down the road to adulthood. A road that I hate and resent. Here, where my bed used to be, is where I lay, listening to my mother cry half the night away for months, too tired and frustrated to try to comfort her. I felt overwhelmed by her grief, inadequate for not having the answers she was looking for, helpless in the face of her anger, unworthy for not meeting all her expectations, for not easing her worries in the wake of what had happened, responsible for keeping life moving, for protecting her, and finally, ashamed and childish, because while she was devastated, I had found love, and wanted most to focus on myself.

Now, I’m lying on the floor and the light from the setting sun is shining through the windows. The house creaks and thuds and settles. For one electrifying moment, it’s so loud, I think that somehow someone has entered the house, but as I listen carefully, I realize that the normal sounds of this old house are amplified by the stillness. In truth, I didn’t live here for a long time before you showed up. My things were here, but I spent maybe one night a week in my old room. This filled me with guilt and loneliness, thinking of my mother alone here, in a house brimming with the past. It sounds silly to say, but the ghosts drove me out; the memories that I didn’t like thinking of. Now I’m clinging to those memories, because they’re all I have left.

I take one last look at the view out my windows. The street, the garden – always wild looking, filled to overflowing with flowers, berries, and herbs. I exit through the back door, to the covered stone patio where I spent so many rainy afternoons playing cards, and to the raspberry bush, but it’s too late in the season – too late for one last taste of summer.

There’s a circle of stone sunken into the ground near the back of the yard. I’m unsure of its purpose, if it had one, but it looks like once, perhaps, a well stood there. As a child, when I uncovered it, I hoped to find something there. I was probably a strange child, because, although I hoped of finding “treasure”, I was looking for artifacts, rather than gold or some other such silly notion. I wanted to find something someone buried there intentionally, a story of who had come before. I found nothing, but I buried my own time capsule there for you, or posterity, or future archaeologists who would of course be fascinated by the plastic Charizard figurine I’d buried there (ironically, I had a passionate hatred for Pokemon, but at the time it had been such a pop culture phenomenon among all the other eight year olds, I imagine I thought it was an important piece of prepubescent history). I may or may not have dug this “time capsule” back up a short while later. I planted my favorite flower over top of the spot. Forget-me-nots. Now, in early May, the backyard becomes a blanket of tiny blue flowers.  Thinking about it now, I wish that I had a piece of that blanket to bring home to my own backyard. But it’s too late in the season, and all traces of the flowers are gone. They must be turned over to you, to do with what you will.

As I pull out of the driveway for the last time, I hope that you will love this place as I have loved it, and as those who came before both of us did. I hope that fewer ghosts will haunt you here than have haunted me. And I hope that you will not forget that there were those who came first, and that little bits of us linger in the corners here. And finally, I hope that when you are gone, you will leave your mark too, because it will have meant something to you.

Deer and Sleet

There are seven deer in the backyard, as the sun begins to set.  He stands on the edge of the bathtub and I can hear the steady click of his camera and I stand at the kitchen sink watching them pulling on the grass.  There are three big ones, and four little ones, the two closest to me must be twins, I think, the female is smaller, and is munching on birdseed, the nob headed, black kneed male is only slightly larger, and she is so comfortable with him, he has his head under her front legs trying to get the seed that falls as she eats.  Eventually the three big ones leave and then that male, the littlest of the three, cavorts around the yard, jumping, leaping, bowing and running in circles. 

In the morning there are three again in the yard, the big doe looks at me as I stand in the glass of the back door.  I open it, she sees me, hears me, you better go I tell her, and the dog pulling at his collar which is firmly in my hands is barking like crazy.  She stands still, but I let him go and he runs up after them, even in his aching old man state.  He and I wander around the back yard crisp with frost. 

Its cold, and I am sorry I don’t have a warm sweater on, or a thicker skirt, my breath is heavy in the morning air.  The weather man said a year ago today it was 80 degrees.  We lost a lot of fruit with that early heat wave, blossoms froze a week later, and again two weeks after that whatever remained was gone.  People complain, including me, about the sleet and icey snow the kind that freezes hard when it hits the wet surface of a windshield, or a bridge, but I prefer fruit to a hot March. 

 

First Robin of Spring

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March in all of it’s bi-polar madness, warm days, sunshine, snow and cold pouring rain.  The time change is brutal, I curse the person who invented alarm clocks, and then the one who invented clocks, squeezing human beings into a construct of man when we are creatures of nature.

Tuesdays are especially brutal, I have to be at work 40 minutes earlier, when the perfect time for my internal body clock to arrive at work is a full hour and a half later.  I open the door to the drizzle, a steady one, if I were living in a rainforest, I imagine this rain would have its own name.  And then I hear the song of it, and in the rain with my boiled wool sweater and steam punk style brimmed cap, I search for the singer.  And then there it is high up in the maple tree.  I know you cannot tell what it is by this picture, but the song said it all.

The first robin of spring.

Snowdrops and Steampunk

 

“Therefore trust to thy heart, and to what the world calls illusions.”  ~ Longfellow

 

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If March were a human being, it would have bi polar disorder.  Two days ago I woke to an inch and a half a snow on the ground with more steadily falling, within a few hours, it was all melted away.  Some days in March have a cold bitter wind, but today despite a cool breeze, the sun was shining, the skies were blue.  We missed the first half of the lovely day, on another adventure, but in the afternoon, the pirate suggested going out to enjoy just wandering around the yard in the sunlight.  I love this thing about him, this thing that loves to look at the things growing in the yard.

I told him this morning as we were watching a story on the news about the time change, that I would love to have a box full of clock parts.  We wandered, separately and then together and then apart again.  I am looking for ideas for making art books, for ephemera for collage and mixed media.  Then he calls me, excitement in his voice.  I look over his shoulder and find a box full of pocket watch parts.  I am thrilled.

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This is a box of great treasure.

Grey Morning.

As I pass by the sink, a giant blue jay lands on the feeder just outside the window.  I stop mid pour to watch it, eat and turn to fly away.  The dog ambles out of the pirate’s bedroom, the traitor, and leans against my knees and looking up sleepily at me.  I throw on a jacket hung over a chair by the door and in the garage I slip on my clogs.  I wander around the backyard, scooping up small brown gifts, and then toss the results over the fence into the woods.  I stumble about in the snow which is like one of those chocolate and powdered sugar cookies, coating but not covering, and down the steps, noting how my foot prints are now criss crossed with those of squirrels, rabbits, deer and dog.  I step into the kitchen again, only now it is the red back of a cardinal at the feeder.  I wash the dishes as I watch it fly away.  I finish the ablutions of the morning routine and step back into the kitchen, Bart, whom I would have named Buddha or Bodhisatva, is crouched on the counter watching the birds too.  He is the calmest, most cuddly cat I have ever encountered, calmly sitting next to the hissing bitch kitty, waiting for her to love him.  He rolls over against my belly pressing his upside down nose to my face, purring like a motorboat.

It is the fourth of March.  It is hovering close to freezing and the snow is drizzling down literally one flake at a time.  The birds are singing.  But it is grey and still feels like winter.

Madness

In like a lion, out like a lamb.  Though today was neither lion nor lamb, it was just a slow drifting flakes of snow on warm wet ground kind of day.  My first time venturing outdoors in a couple days.  I have been under the weather, meaning, I have had no idea what the weather was.  Three days ago we looked at the green stalks of crocus growing in the Aunt’s yard.  A week ago, at the stalks of daffodil pushing up through the snow, despite the solid tromping from Jack the dog, but far south of here.  I started this blog, as a way of noting the changing seasons, the flowers blooming, the smell of spring in the air, the birds making their biannual pilgrimage.

It became a treatise on the cold and stark winter of my soul.   Noting the flowers that bloomed in the snow.  The fireflies that glowed in the solid dark, and the the birds that shit on my head.

March is an up and down month, a month when it snows three feet one day and is fifty degrees the next.  Then freezing rain, then buds bursting in the trees.

I am up and down right now.

It is said that when you need to shut down, your body and mind shut down.

So my foot started to hurt for no reason, and shortly I was not walking.  Then when people began to demand my services as driver and errand runner, I started to vomit.  I still don’t feel particularly well.

I am waiting on a sign from the universe, telling me what is next.

I stand by the kitchen window.  On one foot.

And watch the tiny flakes drifting one by one down onto the wet grass.

I cannot keep my eyes open.

And I fall asleep.